Stupid question about women...

Any truth in the rumour that many women can tell if a bloke is in love with them, long before he gets it together to tell them?

Kind-of stuck in a potential situation (can't be that lucky though...) and am curious...

I don't want to put my foot in it if I don't have to, hence the slightly-lame question.

 

All women can read us like us like a book!

 

Many can, but not all. Better to risk putting your foot in it than incorrectly assuming a woman can 'read' your feelings.

 

Women are generally much better at reading 'body language' than men, the real thing is to spot if she is giving any messages back to you.

 

Being a bloke, he won't be able to.

 

I don't really see it as a man/woman thing. MOre about who the MOre confident of the two are.

 

Being partially sighted, I won't be able to

If there's no REALLY OBVIOUS visual clues (barring legs crossed in particular direction) I'm totally screwed! Any other obvious visual clues?

I overheard some comments I don't think I was supposed to this weekend, which is why I'm ramping up the ante in this area.

More to the point, what kind of visual clues do BLOKES give out, so I can glean if I've already put my foot in it unintentionally??

 

Massive hard-on?

 

So money isn't the only subject you're willing to exaggerate wildly about.

 

I was discussing what signals *Dom* might be giving out!

 

If she starts to offer you advice on your clothing and how to dress when you are out together the chances are that she thinks you are worth cultivating and that she is ready to put a bit of effort into the relationship. So if this does not frighten or worry you then you might be in luck.

 

Are you already in a relationship with this lass?

 

Never had that come up; we're clubber heads from way back so "anything goes" clothes-wise. I only see her failry rarely at the moment as she's one of my mates I left "up south east" when I relocated.

She does however help out re potential gaffes here and there and certainly is a good "teacher" re general life etc, and seems keen to ensure I don't get into too much bother. Mind you, now I'm writing this it kind of looks more and more like "just mates", doesn't it?

Nadgers!

Either way, I am still determined to "say my piece" in person re her current bloke though - have a few strips I want to verbally tear off of him. Suspect that'll land me in deep water though. SOMEONE has to say it though!

EDIT: based on when I first met her and what she'd told me about her then-ex, I'm FIERCELY protective of her; she's known me long enough to hopefully not run a mile if this weekend pans out the way I would like it to. So Mo!, I'm not in a relationship with her in THAT way, but we've been good mates for a long time so could be maybe too far down that route. Who knows?

 

blimey all this cherche la femme stuff takes me back

frankly the rule of thumb here is this - if she is up for it you will know for sure. in the absense of this - she isn't

 

Well of course you run the risk that she'll think you're trying to queer the pitch of a rival for her affection by 'saying your piece'. Up to you of course, but my experience suggests that women don't take kindly to such advice and it can often be counter-productive, eg in the case of my sister who married her first husband mainly because my parents objected so violently to him.

 

Dom, the pitch of your question tells me a heck of a lot.

Let me tell you, a woman will not be interested in you if you behave like your question in this thread.

Either ask her out for a drink or do not. Don't find excuses to call her, don't find ways to be in her space. You might be the best of friends but if you screw up at this delicate stage then its game over.

She is watching and she knows, this is the delicate balance between nice and annoying. I have tipped the balance over to annoying a few times in my life. I could see from a distance myself behaving like a div, but could not help myself, I called this love, actually its just stupid.

Get a grip right now, ask her for a drink, or do not. Don't be a Div Dom.

 

Hmm...shame to ruin a long standing friendship by wading in and fking it up. How about quizzing mutual friends? Ask one of her mates (a sensible girl who you can talk to) what the situation is. If she tells you to back right off then leave it. Theres alot to be said for the old "my mate fancies you" way of doing things. You get a straight answer and it saves the whole situation Garyi was talking about when you think you're making moves but really you just look like a eejit.

 

So if you suspect it's going to 'land in deep water' why do you still want to do it?

Has she talked to you about her bloke or are you trying to single handedly 'fix things' even if she doesn't want you to?

 

Remember...a girl might moan about her bloke til the cows come home but she'll still love him so don't go assuming anything and tread carefully. I dunno if the 'knight in shining armour' image ever comes good.

 

Dom, you have been warned. Your perspective is very much unlikley to be her perspective unless you are certain there is chemistry.

If she does not feel as you and you are making a 'big deal™' out of this then she will probably think you are a bit weird.

Trust me on this one, because there is not a man on earth who has not made a prat of himself after falling in 'love'

Love typically is not nearly as emotionally f**ed up as infatuation.

My feeling is she is not the one for you, be her friend as she is yours and keep looking mate.